It takes a lot for stuff to get to me. I'm a pretty laid back, easy going person. So needless to say I was shocked this morning to see a discussion on a listserve that involved my name and some pretty bold statements.
But before I get to that, let me fill you in on the background so know what's going on.
Probably touched on this on a blog post from last year but in 2004 I interned at ESPN in Bristol, CT. The apartment building housed roughly 20 interns including seven black interns including myself. Naturally, we all hung out after work since a majority of us lived on the same floor.
Of the seven black interns, I was the only one who didn't attend a HBCU. You had Morehouse, FAMU, Hampton, Spelman, Xavier ... and then good ol Hofstra University, the "others" school in New York.
During our 10 weeks, the topic of HBCUs came up more than often and naturally I had different views than the other six students. Part of my reasoning I explained to them was being from Los Angeles compared to the other six who all grew up in the South where a vast majority of HBCUs are located.
While in Bristol, I felt like the odd man out at times. The other interns probably thought I was cooning because this was my 3rd internship with ESPN, I knew a majority of the people that we came across at the campus from working there before and just knew the ins and outs about the internship program.
After the summer, we created a listserve where the seven of us have kept in touch over the past18 months. Since I felt so different than the rest, I hardly responded to the messages on the listserve and would drop the monthly "Hey, how are you, I'm still alive" note and keep it moving.
That was until today.
I get an e-mail and it goes like this:
I miss my roomies...we had the livest room! Me, my two Hispanic homies and my mixed-up Black friend Marcus.
Although I dont want to spark a true discussion, my roommate is from LA and being around him I've learned a lot about LA. I'm still wondering how "LA people don't know about HBCUs", b/c I know A LOT of LA people in the AUC. Cuba Gooding, Jr. and Nia Long went to Morehouse and Spelman at the end of Boyz 'N The Hood. There was an HBCU Fair over Christmas break in LA and an HBCU basketball tournament that was BIG! I know at least 4 people from your HS in the AUC alone...Lenecia Dorsey, Ronda Daniels, Thomas Horne and Michael Moss. Maybe you just didn't grow up around it, but it is there, especially with LA, having the only HBCU on the West Coast (King-Drew Medical School).
I ignore the mixed up black friend comment because I was too busy laughing at the fact that he points out he knows four people from the AUC from my high school alone. That, and along with the fact that Nia Long and Cuba Gooding Jr. went to an HBCU at the end of a "west coast" movie, I was suppose to be well informed about HBCUs.
I said fine, not going to respond because I'm not trying to get in a pissing match which I know I'll lose. To my shock, one of the other HBCU students even came to my defense and said you really don't know unless you grew up in the West Coast.
And then I get this beauty this morning.
King Drew is an HBCU...it is a medical school...it wouldn't be on the list, because it is a graduate school. The other three medical schools are Howard, Morehouse School of Medicine and Meharry.
LA specifically is very interesting in its makeup. The "black elite" is very small and go to a handful of private high schools, or L.A.C.E.S. or King-Drew HS (the "prep" for King-Drew Medical School). My roommate grew up on Arlington and Exposition, in South Central LA, right by USC. He went to Brentwood School most of his life, where he went to school with the kids of Oliver Stone, Arnold Schwarzenegger and a bunch of "celebrities". His parents couldn't afford private school if it wasn't for his scholarship, which was offered to his two younger brothers, one who is at Stanford and the other in 9th grade at Brentwood. His mom is from DC and his dad is from Oklahoma, neither of which went to an HBCU. He applied to various schools, but he decided on Morehouse, which was the only HBCU on his list. He knew about Morehouse growing up, but he looked at college as a business opportunity and he got a full-ride, so he attended.
My argument was that LA kids know about HBCUs...not that they are enthralled in that state of mind. I'm from DC, where everyone goes to an HBCU pretty much, or Temple or Maryland. My mindset isn't skewed due to my upbringing; I see how a person may not know. However, people from LA know...the culture is just different. People in LA aspire to live lavish, to be extrinsically successful. Most times it doesn't matter where they go, as long as they become successful. You are what you drive in LA. All I'm saying is that there are opportunities readily accessible, especially for Marcus at his HS, that allowed for African-Americans to be aware of HBCUs. For his outlook to be so negative is self-fulfilling, not based solely on his background. He doesn't like Black people...so a school of all Black people was blocked out of his head.
He doesn't like black people?
Really?
I didn't consider going to a HBCU not because I don't like black people. The West Coast is the West Coast and the South is the South. My exposure to college life in high school was spending time at USC, going to football games, hanging out on campus, etc...
Naturally, where did I want to go to college. USC.
If I grew up going to Grambling vs. Southern every November or spent time in the AUC, then I would have probably applied to a Morehouse or Southern University.
We all know I didn't end up at USC for my own reasons (grades) but instead ended up at Hofstra because it was in New York.
I didn't know that I didn't like my own race though. Pretty bold statement to make to a group of people. If the e-mail was directed personally to me, that's one thing. But to accuse me of not like my own race to a group of folks is another.
Which goes back to I think how people define blackness.
What is blackness?
For some, blackness is the way you talk, the way you dress, the way you walk.
For others, there is no defintion of blackness.
If you are black, you are black, end of story.
But for some, blackness or defining one's blackness is an issue.
Is Kyle "Scoop" Yeldell blacker than me?
Is it because he refers and calls himself "Scoop" instead of his real name?
Is it because he went to Morehouse College while I attend my "others" university?
Is it beacuse Omega Psi Phi while I'm not active in Black greek life?
I often wonder why we as a race aren't doing more in this country. And I think the problem starts with our own race.
There's too much looking down upon by our own people, let alone other races.
And every black person who has heard the Oreo jokes or the comments about "You're not black enough" will agree with me.
I don't hear my white friends saying "Billy is not white enough, I'm whiter than Billy." So why are black people?
Why do we feel the need to express how much blacker than your fellow brother or sister?